Making Meaning of Your Memories

One of the reasons memoirs never get written is a subtle saboteur: an imagined audience standing over the writer's shoulder—a parent, a sibling, an ex, a future reader with opinions. Even before a single sentence is typed, that imagined judgment can shut a story down completely.

So here's a rule wo...

Some days you sit down to write your memoir with a clear memory in mind, and the words come easily. Other days you sit down, stare at the page, and nothing comes. Either way, you write.

It sounds counterintuitive—how can you write when you genuinely don't know what to say? But "nothing to say" is r...

Here's a scene that plays out in first drafts everywhere: A writer types a sentence, reads it back, winces, deletes it, and rewrites it three different ways before moving on to the next sentence—where the whole cycle starts again. An hour later, they've produced two polished paragraphs and a mountai...

You've scheduled your writing time. Good. Now here's the tool that will do more for your memoir than any fancy notebook or writing app ever could: a plain, ordinary timer.

Set it for 15 to 30 minutes—whatever length you committed to when you scheduled your session. Then start it, put your fingers o...

If you've been telling yourself you'll write your memoir "when things calm down," I have some bad news: things rarely calm down. Life stays full. The laundry keeps needing to be folded, the inbox keeps refilling, and the story you've been carrying around in your head stays right where it is—unwritte...

Every writer faces self-doubt. But memoir writers face it in a particular and personal way, because the subject matter is you. Your life. Your choices. Your wounds and your recoveries, your failures and your reinventions. When you write a novel, rejection is about the work. When you write a memoir, ...

You’ve imagined it: the moment your memoir is finally in someone’s hands. But before you can get there, you need to make a foundational decision, and it’s one most aspiring authors underestimate. Not just how to publish, but which path is genuinely right for you.

The publishing landscape has change...

This week in Memories to Manuscript, my course to get started writing your memoir, three writers read scenes from their lives. Different decades, settings, and emotional terrain.

But as I listened, I found myself noticing something deeper; not just what they wrote, but what good memoir writing requ...

You want to write your memoir—but something keeps getting in the way. Time. Energy. Fear. Perfectionism. Life. All legitimate barriers.

But writing a memoir isn’t just about finding inspiration. It’s about building habits.

In Atomic Habits, James Clear’s best-selling book on how to make tiny chang...

If you’ve ever struggled to decide where to begin your memoir—or how to include important backstory without confusing your reader—you’re not alone. Memoir writing isn’t a straight line. Life doesn’t unfold neatly from birth to now, and neither should your story.

That’s where flashbacks come in.

A ...

Writing a memoir is a bit like hiking a mountain you’ve never climbed before. At first, you’re filled with energy and excitement. The air feels fresh, the view is full of possibility. But as the path winds upward, you hit rocky sections. The climb gets steeper. You may even wonder if you’ve lost you...

Writing a memoir takes time, energy, and courage.

And there will be days when you wonder if it’s worth it.

Days when the words won’t come.
Days when you feel like no one will ever read it.
Days when the doubts get loud.

That’s why every memoir writer needs a ‘why.’

Why Your “Why” Matters

Your “...